When a memory is too strong, you experience a distortion of this moment continuesly going to the past. Your system accumulates memory and unless properly processed -these layers will eventually overwhelm any present moment.
When you forgive a long-held grievance, you open the door to true Freedom/to Independance! 
Liberate the Self from old bondage(s) hurt or silent contracts that keep you stuck in old patterns.
Supported by the strength of a daily practice of meditation and yoga, you can transcend your past memory. 
Live in the Now moment as you learn about the 7 Steps to Forgiveness and enable your Self to learn from the past, but not live in it -- forgive and be nourished by the experience of ‘what is’ in the Now to be able to grow into a more colorful and different future.